Hello! Just thought I'd share this in case there any other baby brains out there... I was chatting away to a friend the other day, my baby on one arm and a frappuccino in the other whilst getting money out of the cash machine.. I thought I could do it all but no I took the cash and just walked off without the card. Luckily there was no one behind me to take it as it came out and so the machine swallowed it. I say lucky but it isn't really very lucky because in China (or at least at our bank) if you lose your cash card they can't just issue you with a new one (too simple) - you have to change the whole bank account which means informing any one who uses your bank account (in our case our landlord, my husband's HR department and a few other trivial people like that) and going several weeks without being able to retrieve any cash.. Not lucky at all if you really think about it! You can tell this had happened to me before.. 10mins later I realised what had happened, ran back and found this little piece of paper poking out of the cash machine with a card retrieval number - omg this piece of paper saved my life. My husband was able to call the number and get our card back! Much easier than changing the whole bank account over and much better for husband/wife relationships... They should do this everywhere though I have to say that before China I had never actually lost a bank card before... I wonder if it's the pressure of feeling like it's not really "my" card? Maybe you other mums are lucky and have your own bank account here but I don't and sometimes it makes me feel like a small child, especially when I then do something stupid and have to call my husband to own up to it! Food for thought.. How do other mums feel about not having their own source of cash? Is it just me? Or is it just baby brain and nothing to do with that at all? In any case, ladies, if your card gets swallowed hang around for that magic piece of paper and go get your card back!
I also struggle with not earning my own cash here in Shanghai! My husband says what's his is mine but it doesn't feel that way - when I had my own salary I wouldn't mind the odd treat like a nice pair of shoes but now the money is all his I feel like I need to justify my choices to him more.. Perhaps that is where the pressure comes with your card? My advice would be to try to do just one thing at a time - preposterous I know but especially with your hormones all over the time it might help ;-0 That and relieving the pressure on yourself a little because living full-time in China IS a job, no matter what people back home may say or think